Recognizing the Signs of Abuse
Abuse can take many forms: physical, emotional, sexual, and psychological. If someone you’re dating or close to displays any of the following behaviors, you may be experiencing abuse:
- They are overly jealous or possessive
- They put you down, criticize, or humiliate you
- They threaten or scare you—verbally, physically, or emotionally
- They hit, slap, push, or kick you
- They control where you go, what you wear, or what you do
- They try to isolate you from friends or family
- They pressure you to do things you’re not comfortable with
- They force or coerce you into sex
- They restrict or control your use of birth control or condoms
Abuse is never your fault. If you’re feeling unsafe, confused, or overwhelmed, help is available.
How to Help a Friend in an Abusive Relationship
If you suspect someone you care about is in an abusive relationship, your support can make a big difference. Here’s how to help:
- Be there: Offer your unconditional friendship and support. Make it clear you're there to listen, not to judge.
- Ask and listen: Gently ask how they’re feeling, and express concern.
- Reinforce their worth: Remind them that the abuse is not their fault.
- Protect their privacy: Don’t spread gossip. It could endanger them further.
- Support at their pace: Don’t push them to make decisions they’re not ready for.
- Seek help together: Encourage them to speak with a trusted adult or professional. Help them find resources or medical attention if needed.
Parents: How to Help
Violence can impact teens in ways parents may not expect. In fact, nearly 1 in 3 high school girls say they know someone at school who has been physically abused by a dating partner.
As a parent, you are in a powerful position to help. Start by having open, honest conversations:
- Ask your teen: “How is your relationship going?”
- Talk about what healthy vs. unhealthy relationships look like.
- Ask if they’ve seen abuse in friends’ relationships and what they think about it.
